The first thing to think about is whether you want to surprise your groom or schedule your speech into the day.
The surprise speech is always a bit-bloody-cool but get a sense of the groom’s thank yous so that you don’t needlessly echo each other. Also, keep an eye on your duration. If there’s no check on the length of the groom speech, you need to keep yours relatively concise.
If the groom knows you’re giving a speech, you can divvy out the thank yous (and check that you aren’t repeating the classic stories). Sure, you’ll each want to thank both sets of parents but only one of you gets to tell the story where you got locked in that dodgy club.
You can also agree to contain both speeches to about six or seven minutes so you both get your share of air-time!
There are lots of good online sites to help you estimate your durations depending on wordcount.
A bride speech is the Burger King of speeches – you get to say what you want, how you want.
But (massive klaxon warning) make sure you’re not left with the ‘scraps of speeches’. Check out Confetti’s Guide to Etiquette to get a sense of who’s doing what so you don’t find yourself repeating the same thank yous as your husband and mumbling ‘again’ far too often. Stake your claim on the good stuff.
The role of your speech is to
So who are ‘the important people’?
Of course, there may be others you want to mention but resist the urge to read out half the guest list. Nothing kills off a speech quicker than a tedious thank you list.
If you’re planning on giving thank you gifts to any of the wedding party, we recommend saying you’ll be ‘personally handing them out later’ so it doesn’t disrupt the flow of your speech and the guests aren’t tempted to start checking their WhatsApp messages.
We cannot stress this strongly enough… A bride’s speech should not be more romantic or less humorous than the groom’s.
If you’re the naturally soppy sort, you might be hoping your bride’s speech is an opportunity to get all dewy-eyed and leave singletons weeping at the glory of the love you have found. It’s not.
OTT declarations of love can still be cringey even in a wedding context. If you can’t imagine reading your speech to your mates down the pub without them wanting to throw things at you, you’ve probably pitched it wrong.
Yes, we want to feel the love, but leave it for the audience to interpret it rather than spending the full seven minutes explicitly saying it. Tell the stories from your life together, rather than just looking for ways of telling your groom you love him. That bit is obvious!
Make the thanks yous meaningful – Don’t just talk about what people have contributed to the wedding, thank them for what they’ve contributed to your life (even if it is just an appreciation on malt whiskeys). Keep each thank you less than 50 words.
Use quotes – Funny or poignant quotes can add something extra to your speech and it’s not plagiarism if you credit the author! Take inspo from our Quotes For Bride Blog.
Toast something meaningful – ideally something that will make your husband and guests smile – maybe ‘a lifetime of dancing on tables’. Consider a #TequilaToast
Practise your speech and film it on your phone – Watch it back and spot where your speech can be improved.
Listen to feedback – It’s always worth testing your speech on a mate but this means you have to listen to them. If someone doesn’t get a joke, don’t waste your time explaining it as you won’t be able to do that on the day.
Smile – Everyone wants you to do well so make sure you smile. It’s scientifically proven to be infectious and those scientists know stuff.
Don’t thank the caterers or the venue – It’s unnecessary.
Don’t ‘explain’ why you’re giving a bride speech – Yes, you might always have the last word but a bride speech doesn’t need any justification for giving a speech.
Don’t show off – Yes, it’s your special day. But no, you’re not allowed to show off about it. Be conscious there are single girls out there. Be self-deprecating & be humble. Don’t do a Paltrow. Instead, channel Jennifer Aniston and be the rocking hot girl who everyone still likes.
Don’t resort to clichés – Yes you can thank your in-laws for ‘raising such a wonderful son’ but try to make it personal too. Thank your mother in law for the extra inch added to your waistline since you first sampled her Yorkshire Puddings.
Don’t talk over laughter – You’ve worked hard for those laughs – don’t rush them. Always wait until your guests have settled down before continuing with your speech.
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