Here’s looking at you, kid. Literally.
Regardless of whether they began walking at six months, became the cross-country champion or they have finally managed to eat their vegetables without crying, there isn’t a more intimate way of honouring a child’s transition to adulthood than a well-written speech.
How To Structure Your Bar Mitzvah Speech
- Welcome the guests: Acknowledge those who have come to celebrate this special day.
- Share some anecdotes from either your childhood or your son’s. What quirks and habits have made him into the man he is today?
- Thank the family: Pay tribute to those who have helped raise you or your son.
- Finish with a nod to the future: Look forward to this new, wonderful chapter of your/your son’s life.
Let’s run through it in more detail…
Welcome The Guests
If you’re writing a speech for your son’s Bar Mitzvah, begin by welcoming those who have joined you for this joyous celebration.
Warm up acknowledging the fact you are no longer able to lie about your child’s age in order to purchase discounted theme park tickets. Confess that not only are you ready to part with your child’s youth, and certainly not ready to give up playing Nintendo with him.
If you are sharing a few words to commemorate your own Bar Mitzvah, it’s likely you’ll be doing so after your parents. Thank them for your kind words, but don’t forget to remind them that becoming an adult today doesn’t mean they can start charging rent tomorrow.
Share Some Anecdotes
As a parent of a young man entering the next chapter of their life, you’ll have a vault of memories and have witnessed the development of his personality traits. Reminisce on old stories and habits that will allow the room to recognise the person you’re talking about today.
It goes without saying that, as a proud parent, you’ll want to spend hours gloating about the qualities in your son that you admire the most, but remember, you’re a parent! It’s almost a given that you take each and every chance to embarrass them.
Humour always goes down well in the context of even the most emotional of speeches, and this could be the perfect opportunity to remind your son how he has been an adult way before his years…as he continuously ran around the house as a toddler in his mum’s high heels and lipstick.
Equally, if you’re giving a speech at your own Bar Mitzvah, you may want to reminisce on your earliest memories and share a few favorites. No doubt you’ll have many heart-warming moments with your parents as you explored your faith and being a child, but the room will definitely appreciate a funny throwback and forgotten tale to get them laughing.
Remember, storytelling is a social bonding juice, so don’t just rely on adjectives. Bring your descriptions to life with great anecdotes that illustrate your points.
Thank The Family
Whilst it can be argued that every amazing quality in your son comes from the genetics of you and your partner, there will also be many family and friends that have contributed to your son’s remarkable childhood.
If you have any grandparents that took on multiple babysitting duties, or a favourite Uncle who has helped you prep for this particular day, be sure to acknowledge those who have helped you on this journey.
To The Future
Closing the door on childhood and walking into the daunting life that is adulthood can be quite daunting. If you are writing a speech to honour your son, touch on the traits and stories you mentioned previously and say how you think these will develop into adulthood.
Being a stubborn teenager may be ever-so-slightly-annoying now, but not giving up on what they want will be an amazing trait to carry into their future. No matter how many embarrassing anecdotes you’ve shared, wrap up by reminding them about how immensely proud you are and that you have no doubts about the adult they’ll become.
And if you are concluding your own Bar Mitzvah speech, what do you think your version of adulthood will look like? Are there any dreams you have or career goals you want to achieve? Or you are happy just going with the flow whilst aspiring to be half the adult your parents are.
Writing a great speech is only half the challenge. You also have to deliver the thing! Read our Delivery Advice to get a few tips.
Of course, whether it’s writing or delivering your speech that you need help with, Speechy can help. We’re famous for our celebration speeches as well as our wedding work.