A word of warning before we begin… Using quotes is a great way of adding gravitas to your speech but don’t let it make you lazy.
Use the quotes as an addition to what you want to say, rather than a substitute for your own words. Write your speech first, then see if a quote or two can make it better.
1 – Make the quotes meaningful
Think about the songs, the films, the books that mean something to you both. Do any of these lend themselves to a great quote? Guaranteed, the bride will love you more for it.
2 – Don’t overload your speech with quotes
Two maximum as a general rule. One at the top and one towards the end.
3 – Quote recognisable names (or at least provide some context)
It’s always good to quote people that you’ve actually have heard of (or at least respect after you’ve looked them up on Wikipedia). You’ll find there’s loads of great quotes by people you’ve never heard of, but do you really want to qualify them by saying they were written by a ‘relationship consultant’?
4 – Don’t just use quotes for the sentimental bit
Quotes can also add humour where it’s needed.
5 – Add a back ref
Put the quote into a personal context, or make it humorous with a suitable ‘ad lib’.
6 – Get expert advice
Check out our Groom Speech Advice for the full low down on how to package your quotes up in a great speech.
“I am nothing special; just a common man with common thoughts, and I’ve led a common life. There are no monuments dedicated to me and my name will soon be forgotten. But in one respect I have succeeded as gloriously as anyone who’s ever lived: I’ve loved another with all my heart and soul; and to me, this has always been enough.” Nicolas Sparks, The Notebook.
Yeah, you’re no Ryan Gosling, but you can still pull off this quote. It’s suitably self-deprecating and rather endearing.
Everyone in the room will love it. Especially the bridesmaids.
“I knew when I met you an adventure was going to happen.” A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh.
That moment you meet your bride for the first time. Summed up by a honey munching bear.
Hands up. We’d never heard of this dude until recently but boy, is he worth knowing if you want a romantic quote…
“The one thing I know for sure is that feelings are rarely mutual, so when they are, drop everything, forget belongings and expectations, forget the games, the two days between texts, the hard to gets because this is it, this is what the entire world is after and you’ve stumbled upon it by chance, by accident––so take a deep breath, take a step forward, now run, collide like planets in the system of a dying sun, embrace each other with both arms and let all the rules, the opinions and common sense crash down around you. Because this is love kid, and it’s all yours. Believe me, you’re in for one hell of a ride, after all––this is the one thing I know for sure.”
“It is a frightening thought, that in one fraction of a moment you can fall in the kind of love that takes a lifetime to get over.”
‘’When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.’’ Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist
Even we have to admit this is sweet. And potentially true.
“It was a million tiny little things that, when you added them all up, they meant we were supposed to be together.”Sleepless in Seattle
Ok so it’s from a chick-flick but the sentiment works. We approve.
“Once in awhile, right in the middle of an ordinary life, love gives us a fairy tale.”Unknown Author
So it’s probably ‘by the internet’ but the idea is a good one. Add a comedy back ref comparing your bride to a Disney princesses and how her style, er, differs somewhat.
”My most brilliant achievement was my ability to be able to persuade my wife to marry me.”Winston Churchill
Helps if you’ve done something impressive with your life, but not essential.
“When I saw you I fell in love, and you smiled because you knew.”Arrigo Boito
Yep, it’s fair to say you can’t get away with much these days.