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Wedding Vows For Lesbian Brides

Wedding Vows For Lesbian Brides

Speechy's guide to writing heartfelt, personalised wedding vows to celebrate your unique love for one another.

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Why Write Your Own?

We’ve all been to those same old stuffy weddings, where you can predict every single beat of the day before you even get there. But if you want your wedding to be a representation of you and your partner’s unique love for one another, why not personalise every little touch?

Vows are a great place to start. A truly bespoke wedding ensures your promises are much more meaningful, and the ceremony can better reflect your personality and relationship.

Getting Started

Have a Google. Go on, treat yourself. Check out examples of wedding vows to get your creative juices flowing and see how different vows can be.

As you’ll quickly discover, you can structure your vows in a wide variety of ways…

  • You can read your vows one after the other
  • Or, you can split them up into sections and read alternate bits each
  • You can make every line a genuine promise e.g. ‘I vow to…’
  • Or, you can recap your relationship and why it’s so meaningful to you
  • You can dream about your future life together
  • Or, you can explain why this moment is so darn incredible
  • You can make your vows poetic
  • Or, you can turn your vows into an expressive dance. (Well, you can, but obviously don’t. That would be hideous.)

The great thing about personalising your vows is you can make them into whatever you want them to be.

Once you’ve found a style you both like, sign up to it jointly.

Obviously, keep the details and the specific loving lines private, but the key to writing your own wedding vows is that you actually work as a team. Your individual vows need to complement your partners. It always surprises us how often couples decide to write their wedding vows but assume they can’t discuss them in advance. You must!


  • a length
  • a style (loving, sweet, slightly unhumorous even? You don’t want one of you playing for laughs and the other delivering a modern-day sonnet)
  • basic content plan (for example, will one of you be recapping your past, another of you planning your future)

Once you’ve agreed on the fundamentals, you can then hide away in your respective cupboards secretly writing your vows.

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Make it Meaningful

If you’re going to the effort of writing your own vows, make sure you resist the usual clichés that many couples resort to. You don’t want to sound like you’re reciting a Pinterest board. Most of those ‘love quotes’ are now so ubiquitous, they’re simply white noise.

This is the sort of meaningless quotes you want to avoid…

  • ‘Nothing truly ever made sense until you came into my life.’
  • ‘You are everything that I never knew I wanted in this life.’
  • ‘I’m much more ‘me’ when I’m with you.’
  • ‘Love isn’t easy. There are no guarantees. But if you’re willing to do this with me, then I promise you that I’ll hold your hand and love you forever.’

Yes, they may feel relevant to your relationship but they are relevant to nearly every relationship!

Instead, look at the reality and the unique characteristics of your bond.

For example…

  • I have grown to love the lingering smell of cumin in your hair because I love the spice you add to my life
  • I hope that all my future trips to the supermarket take over two hours, because you’re there, getting distracted by the middle aisle, wanting to buy a paddling pool and some novelty slippers.
  • I promise, whenever you come home miserable after another football defeat, I’ll put on The Killers and force you to dance around the kitchen with me
  • I vow never to watch an episode of The Mandalorian without you cuddling in beside me on the sofa

You get the idea.

Make it specific. Make it true. Make it meaningful.

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Avoiding Cheesiness

Everyday romance is often sweeter than the big moments and gestures.

Start by listing all the things you love about your partner, now throw all of that in the bin and start writing a list of all the small things you love about your partner….How they snort when they laugh. How they leave little notes around the house for you. How they use their baby-voice to talk to the dog. How it starts to rain and he says “It wasn’t over. It still isn’t over,” and you kiss and he carries you back to… wait, that’s Ryan Gosling in ‘The Notebook’.

Of course, if you want your vows to make your guests smile, think about how to add some humour.

In real life, your partner isn’t standing at the bottom of the stairs yelling “My heart doth flutter like a rose,” is she? No, she’s yelling “It’s a duvet cover, how hard can it be?!”. (Look, I might be working through some personal issues here, but stay with me).

If the vows are truly about you and your partner, and all the little ways you interact, they won’t sound cheesy at all. They’ll be funny, sweet, and crucially, real.

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Much like the structure, there’s no strict rule but, as a rough guide, your individual vows can be anything between 45 seconds and three minutes long depending on what style you’ve opted for.

Remember, if you have a lot to say, save some for your speech.

Your vows are not the time to thank your guests for example.


The use of quotes can be incredibly helpful in getting your message across, as authors are often able to put into words exactly how you feel in a succinct and profound way.

Check out our Love Quotes for Lesbian Brides for immediate inspo.

Still Struggling? Call in The Professionals

We offer a Bespoke Wedding Vows Service where a dedicated writer works with you to create your perfect vows.

The Speechwriting Experts

The Speechy team are TV-trained scriptwriters/comedians by trade & we’ve helped 1,000s of speakers around the world deliver their dream speech.

Our advice has been quoted everywhere from The New York Times to Grazia and from Forbes to The Observer. Our founder has also featured on the BBC Sounds’ Best Men podcast with Jason Manford and written ‘The Modern Couple’s Guide to Wedding Speeches’, published by Little, Brown.

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