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Wedding Speech Ideas – Think A Little Less Ordinary

Wedding Speech Ideas – Think A Little Less Ordinary

The venue, your overdraft limit, who’s going to sit next to Dave; let’s face it, there’s plenty to think about when you’re planning a wedding. But here’s something we reckon you need to think about more… the speeches. So here’s a few ideas to ensure your speeches really say something at your wedding.

(*Of course, if you’re looking for more than ‘advice’, check out all the different ways the Speechy team can help you write & deliver a great speech. Or check out our new AI-powered team member, SpeechyAI.)

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Over the last couple of decades, wedding speeches have become something to be endured rather than enjoyed. They’re generally regarded as a ‘boy’s job’, relegated to being a must-do chore, where clichés and platitudes are not only accepted but actively encouraged.

As a team of wedding speechwriters, we’re not buying that.

A wedding can be quite formulaic but your speeches add that essential dose of personality and humour that your wedding needs and it’s worth spending time thinking how you two can do them a bit differently.

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Spontaneous Speeches

Admittedly the politics of speeches can get a bit tiresome. Dad versus stepdad, best woman versus best man, your funny mate versus your old friend from school.

One way to avoid this is to have ‘spontaneous speeches’. The idea is stolen from the continent where it’s not unusual for everyone to propose a toast to the newlyweds.

Basically, there are no formal speeches but invites encourage guests to ‘feel free to call for silence and say something (nice!) or read a verse, or just say Hooray or raise a toast’ throughout the wedding meal (usually between courses).

This totally works for boho weddings because it’s casual, cool, and generally gets more fun the more wine has been consumed.

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Shake Up The Line Up

If you want to go down the traditional father, groom, best man route, that’s fine but we’d encourage you to at least question it.

Make sure at least one girl grabs that mic. Brides shouldn’t feel pressure to do anything they just don’t fancy on their wedding day, but we can highly recommend giving a speech. You get to thank all your favourite people for coming to the wedding rather than letting your ‘representative’ hog the limelight. You also get to throw a few compliments your partner’s way!

Of course, don’t just consider the female ‘equivalents’ of the male speakers– think inventively. Young children always have comedic things to say about love and it’s great if you happen to have an elderly relative to add some suitably cynical advice. Contributions needn’t be long, in fact, better if they’re not. Quirky and cute is what we’re after.

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The Not-A-Speech Speech

Your speech will stand out if it doesn’t sound like a speech. Don’t get tied down by all the usual ‘to dos’ and make sure it doesn’t become a roll call of thank yous. Instead, tell a story.

Get creative. If you’re planning a festival-style wedding then maybe chronicle your relationship through your shared love of music and the debates you’ve had over the vinyl collection. If you’re both bookworms compare yourselves to your favourite literary characters and their qualities; Holden Caulfield’s innocence, Patrick Bateman’s humour?!

Consider this your very own TED-talk. Make it exciting and make it interesting.

Something different to consider; is a joint Couple’s Speech. Delivering a speech together shows you’re an equal partnership; one that can quickly establish a comedy double act and get guests laughing. It’s also a lot of fun.

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Tequila Toasts

Gone are the days when we need to toast the ‘health and happiness of the happy couple’ with a glass of Champagne.

Toasts should reflect you as a couple whether that’s a shot of tequila, a glug of bourbon, or a sip of Indian chai.

Be inventive but equally don’t be insulted if Nan rejects the Jack Daniels option.

Also, forget the tired clichés and make sure you toast something that’s meaningful to you. Perhaps ‘decades of dancing on tables and inspiring each other’s tattoos’.

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Dotty Speeches

Avoid the ‘speech clump’ and get clever about how you schedule your speeches. 45 minutes of speeches can leave even your mates checking their newsfeeds under the table.

Think about dotting the speeches about. Schedule one between each course of the wedding meal so everyone can enjoy the interjection and they don’t tire of the stand-up, sit-down palaver of three toasts in quick succession.

Another option is to schedule the ‘main act’ (whoever that may be) for the evening do. Maybe it’s the surprise bride speech, or the naughty best man – whoever it is, it’s a great way of making the b-list invitees feel part of the whole day.

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Enjoy It

So many people ruin their speech by getting too worried about it or delivering it like a business presentation. Powerpoint is a no-no. Props like ‘Speech Bingo’ should be used with caution. Smiling, messing up your lines & laughing are all big yeses.

Don’t feel restricted by tradition or what you’ve seen at weddings before. Making your speech entertaining is not about doing a comedy rap or attempting to go ‘viral’ with it.

Think about what works for you, your partner and your wedding guests and you’re more likely to create an awesome moment.

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The Speechwriting Experts

The Speechy team are TV-trained scriptwriters/comedians by trade & we’ve helped 1,000s of speakers around the world deliver their dream speech.

Our advice has been quoted everywhere from The New York Times to Grazia and from Forbes to The Observer. Our founder has also featured on the BBC Sounds’ Best Men podcast with Jason Manford and written ‘The Modern Couple’s Guide to Wedding Speeches’, published by Little, Brown.

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