fbpx
bbc sounds podcast best men

Best Men Podcast with Jason Manford & Steve Edge

Best Men Podcast with Jason Manford & Steve Edge

The Best Men podcast, hosted by Jason Manford and Steve Edge, featured an episode dedicated to the art of delivering unforgettable best man speeches. They were joined by Speechy’s founder, our very own Heidi Ellert-McDermott, who shared all our favourite speechwriting tips & techniques.

(*Of course, if you’re looking for more than ‘advice’, check out all the different ways the Speechy team can help you write & deliver a great speech. Or check out our new AI-powered team member, SpeechyAI.)

The Speechy team are comedy writers by trade and have written for BBC shows like Dead Ringers and the BAFTA-winning Horrible Histories, so hopefully we have a few useful tips to share.

In this blog post, we’ll delve into the podcast’s highlights and extract the key takeaways to help speakers nail their best man speech (and for newlyweds to help their best man be the very best they can be!).

“Size Matters”

One of the first points Heidi emphasized was the importance of keeping the best man’s speech under 10 minutes. Jason Manford stressed, “The length is a big issue for a lot of people and it’s gotta be under 10 minutes. Hundred percent.” Brevity is key.

Heidi recommended a word count of under 1300 words, which she deemed sufficient to convey everything a best man needs to say. ‘No one’s ever listened to a speech and said, I wish it was longer,’ says Heidi.

Jason says, even professional comedians recognise the value of keeping a performance punchy… ‘When you first start standup comedy and you start getting booked to do comedy clubs, what’s the length of the spot? Five minutes. Five minutes, seven minutes tops if the promoter thinks it’s going well.’ 

And that’s professional comedians!

Even when Jason and Steve gave speeches at each other’s weddings, they managed to keep it to less than five minutes.

LESSON – Keep it to ten mins or under 

wedding toast best man help

“Original Lines For Genuine Laughter”

Laughter is a powerful tool in engaging the audience and making the speech memorable. The hosts advised best men to aim for humor without trying to turn the speech into a comedy show. ‘Lots of best men secretly want to go viral but that’s not the point’, says Heidi. The goal is to entertain and create a lighthearted atmosphere.

Heidi’s also clear about the type of comedy you want to include in the speech– ‘No googled gags or any of the awful wedding jokes.’ Instead of searching the internet for humour, she recommends looking at the groom’s personal quirks and eccentricities.

Steve points out, however, that sometimes the old gags can be subverted for comedic effect. ‘At Jason’s wedding, I said the day’s been so emotional even the cake… is crying (rather than it being in tiers). It worked for all the comedians in the room.’

Jason adds that a wedding audience can actually be tougher than a comedy gig. ‘When you’re doing standup comedy, generally your audience is roughly the same sort of people. They’re the sort of people who go to standup comedy. And they’re between 20 and 50 maybe. At a wedding…Eight to 80, isn’t it? I mean, you know, you’ve got little nephews and you’ve got Nana. There’s so many people to think about audience-wise.’

Heidi agreed it’s essential to avoid ‘anything that makes people cringe or offends the grannies.’ She points out a trap a lot of best men fall into is playing to the stag do but stresses stag do stories should be avoided at all costs, saying stag do anecdotes are all a bit predictable … ‘ You’re all expected to get S*&% – faced, and act like muppets’.

The podcast also includes whether or not to include old photos as part of your speech but Heidi reckons Powerpoint speeches have had their day. And, as Steve and Jason say, once you’ve set up a projector, you’re committed to using it throughout the duration of the speech. ‘It’s a complication you don’t need’.

LESSON – Keep the humour original and suitable for everyone

“The Power of Personal Connection”

Choosing the right best man is essential. Heidi shared a useful tip: “If you’re a groom thinking about who your best man should be, think about the ones that are married.” They already know the dos and don’ts of a good speech and they also have a partner who will no doubt get involved in vetting their speech.

Heidi also emphasized that the best man doesn’t necessarily have to be the funniest person the groom’s mates with; they should be the one who will put in the effort to make the speech special. Being funny down the pub is very different from delivering a witty speech.

The hosts agreed that best man duties can be divvied up so one mate can be in charge of the stag do, another can look after the rings and act as a witness and the most-trustworthy friend can take on the speech.

LESSON – Your best man doesn’t need to be your best mate

wedding speeches brother of bride help

“Themes and Storytelling”

The podcast highlighted the importance of thematic coherence in a best man speech. The hosts suggested incorporating a theme or narrative that ties the speech together. This could be based on the couple’s story, the groom’s personality, or shared experiences. By weaving a common thread throughout the speech, you create a more impactful and memorable presentation.

“Getting the opening lines is kind of the most crucial bit. Once you’ve got that, it hopefully should flow from there,” added Heidi

Make a conscious effort to include elements that resonate with everyone, such as anecdotes about the couple’s journey, their shared experiences, and your own reflections on their relationship.

Read our Best Man Advice or our Make Your Wedding Speech Funny blog for more ideas and tip on creating your theme.

LESSON – Creating a narrative hook puts your speech into the premier league

wedding speech laughter

“Remember To Be Nice”

Throughout the podcasts, both Steve and Jason emphasize that the best man speech needs to be a genuine, thoughtful tribute to the groom as well as being funny. ‘And a best man speech should also include the bride – as so many of them just go straight into stories about when the groom was a knobhead when he was younger.’

Heidi agreed, best men need to make more of an effort with the groom’s other halves. ‘It can’t just come down to the fact she (he) looks good!’

LESSON – Remember the day is a celebration of a couple

wedding speeches best man help

“Deliver Like a Pro”

A well-delivered speech can captivate the audience and leave a lasting impression. Practice your speech multiple times to become familiar with the content and flow. Maintain eye contact with the audience and remember to smile.

‘In terms of the delivery, something that I really don’t like is people reading off tech. I prefer old-school paper rather than a phone or something like that,‘ says Heidi. Jason agreed it looks overly casual and gives the impression ‘you’re not even bothered printing it out.’

Heidi also revealed the simple piece of advice every speaker needs to remember on the day. ‘Something I need to remind people to do whenever I coach them in delivery is simply to… smile! It’s amazing how they quickly forget and it’s such a simple trick to make the audience feel more relaxed and smile back at you.’

LESSON – Practise, smile, and take notes!

wedding speeches lyrics quote rap help

“Scheduling Speeches”

Jason discussed the ideal timing for best man speeches. Jason and Steve both opted to have the speeches before the meal so they could relax but Heidi suggested splitting the speeches between the courses as it can help maintain the audience’s engagement and energy.

She suggested having the father of the bride speak before the meal, followed by the groom or bride after the main course, and finally, the best man after dessert. This staggered approach keeps the momentum and adds a sense of anticipation.

LESSON – No hard and fast rules regarding speech scheduling but consider splitting them up if you have more than a couple

wedding speeches edit speech writing uk

“Do’s and Don’ts”

Other tips we gleaned from the podcast…

  1. Avoid Offensive Content: Refrain from discussing topics that could potentially offend or divide the audience, such as politics, sensitive personal matters, or offensive jokes.
  2. Steer Clear of Exes: Any references to ex-partners are generally inappropriate and may make the couple or the audience uncomfortable.
  3. Don’t Overdo Inside Jokes: While personal anecdotes can be charming, avoid overusing inside jokes that only a few people will understand.
  4. Stay Positive: Focus on celebrating the couple’s love and journey. Avoid negativity or criticism, as this is a day of celebration.
  5. Acknowledge All Attendees: Consider the diverse guest list and incorporate elements that resonate with various age groups and backgrounds.
  6. Embrace Themes and Stories: Build a narrative or theme for your speech to give it a cohesive structure. Incorporate stories that reflect the couple’s relationship.
  7. Practice, Practice, Practice: Rehearse your speech multiple times to boost your confidence and ensure a smooth delivery.

Best Men Podcast

bbc sounds best men podcastEvery episode of the Best Men podcast is genuinely entertaining as well as informative.

Heidi features in Episode 4 – Speech Therapy!

The whole series is packed with advice (and what mistakes to avoid) and covers everything from arranging stag dos to copping off with the mother of the bride!

Listen now. 

The Speechwriting Experts

The Speechy team are TV-trained scriptwriters/comedians by trade & we’ve helped 1,000s of speakers around the world deliver their dream speech.

Our advice has been quoted everywhere from The New York Times to Grazia and from Forbes to The Observer. Our founder has also featured on the BBC Sounds’ Best Men podcast with Jason Manford and written ‘The Modern Couple’s Guide to Wedding Speeches’, published by Little, Brown.

Heidi and the Speechy Team

How can we help you?

SpeechyAI

£49

Speech Edit Service

£245

Bespoke Speech Writing Service

£495

Delivery Coaching

£150

Or check out our range of Speech Templates from just £29:

We’re rated ‘Excellent' on Trustpilot for a reason...

''I had an unbelievable experience working with Speechy. From the moment I got in touch with them I felt supported and come the day of my best mans speech, it went down a storm with a standing ovation.''
''Speechy deserves more than 5 stars. (They) produced a factual, funny Mother of the Bride speech with just the right amount of emotion..... it was ingenious. Thank you so much for the wonderful & priceless memory of having delivered my speech at my daughter’s wedding and nailed it ... and got a standing ovation too. My children were very proud of me, including my new son-in-law! ''
''These Guys are tremendous! One main point is that its not their speech - its yours! This is because it is based totally around what you would like to say, but its the spin that Speechy puts on it, that is the magical bit... Ordinary words become a hilariously entertaining event. There were giggles, applauds, laughs, tears, cheers and standing ovation – all in that order!''
''Feeling anxious or stressed about an upcoming speech? Look no further than Speechy... I just delivered my Best Man speech this past weekend and absolutely crushed it. I was nervous leading up to the moment, but while delivering my speech, I didn't want the experience to end, the room was hooked, and laughing at every joke. Worth every penny... Thank you!''
''Navigating through the wedding industry often feels like you’re stuck on a conveyer belt....Speechy is the complete opposite. They treat you and your wedding like you’re the one and only. I couldn’t recommend them more.''
''Heidi and the whole team at Speechy are an absolute gem! In addition to their talent and extensive experience in speech writing, Heidi had an impressive way of listening to me talk about mine and my partners personal anecdotes, before putting it in such a funny and beautiful way that it felt as though she’d known us for years.''
Previous
Next
Speechy are wedding speech experts and have received many positive reviews

We do mic-drops not name-drops
but here's just a few places we've been featured...

Speechy Wedding Speeches

Not sure where to start?

Products & Services

Speechy Help

Let's help you get started...

Delivery Coaching

£150

Speech Edit Service

£245

Discover our services

Speech Templates

£29

SpeechyAI

£49

Speech Edit Service

£245

Bespoke Speech Writing Service

£495

Delivery Coaching

£150

Not sure? Let's find the right service for you...

We use cookies to ensure that we give you the best experience on our website. If you continue to use this site we will assume that you are happy with it.