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Writing a wedding day letter to your bride might not be something you’ve planned — but trust us, it’s a game-changer. It’s a private, personal, and permanent way to tell your partner just how excited, emotional, and utterly in love you are on the biggest day of your life.
And yes, it might be opened while she’s in a dressing gown with hair rollers in and a half-eaten croissant in one hand, but that only makes it more special.
Whether you’re a romantic or a realist, here’s how to write a wedding letter that hits the perfect balance between heartfelt and funny, classic and personal.
If you’re unfamiliar with the term, a wedding day letter is a handwritten note you give your bride to read on the morning of the wedding — usually before you see each other.
It’s a beautiful, meaningful moment in a day that can otherwise pass in a whirlwind. The letter should capture:
And while it might feel a bit awkward putting your feelings on paper, think of this: she may just keep this letter forever. It might end up framed. On the wall. In the living room. No pressure.
Please, for the love of weddings, don’t write this the night before after a few pints and a kebab.
Take time to think. Start writing a week or two in advance so you’re not rushing. Scribble down thoughts when they hit you. A great wedding day letter isn’t polished — it’s personal.
And once it’s done, write it out properly. Yes, by hand. No, not on A4 printer paper.
Invest in nice stationery. A proper pen. Something that makes it feel like you gave this moment the thought it deserves.
(Of course, if you have left it till the last minute you might want to check out our Letter Writing Service!)
There are no strict rules, but here’s a format we like:
Use this letter to say the things you couldn’t fit into your speech. The stuff that’s too personal for a mic, but perfect for her eyes only.
“Remind her this day is about the love, not the lashes or the weather.” — Heidi Ellert-McDermott, Speechy Founder
You love her? Great. But don’t just say she’s ‘amazing’, ‘beautiful’ or ‘kind’. Be more specific.
Science has proven that over-the-top declarations of love feel less meaningful than more everyday romantic observations.
Quotes can be gold if they reflect you as a couple. Avoid the Pinterest ‘unknown’ cheese and go for something that actually means something to you both.
Here are a few ideas to get you started: Groom Speech Quotes or Lesbian Bride Quotes.
Bonus points if it’s from a song you love, a book you read together, or your favourite film.
This is where you show her that marriage is about the little things.
These are the lines she’ll remember.
Want to build in a secret moment later in the day?
Try this:
“When I squeeze your hand later, it’s because I can’t quite believe you’re my wife.”
Or:
“When you spot me wiping my eye during your entrance, it’s hay fever. Obviously.”
It’s a lovely way to add intimacy to a day where you’ll barely have a second alone.
Your wedding day letter to your bride is the emotional prelude to the biggest moment of your life.
So be brave. Be honest. Be you.
And remember — when she’s reading it in 20 years with a cuppa, you want her to laugh, smile, and think: Yep, I married a good one.
If you need help with your letter, check out our bespoke letter writing or letter edit service.
Need help with your speech? We’re here for you too.
Let’s make this moment matter.
The Speechy team are TV-trained scriptwriters/comedians by trade & we’ve helped 1,000s of speakers around the world deliver their dream speech.
Our advice has been quoted everywhere from The New York Times to Grazia and from Forbes to The Observer. Our founder has also featured on the BBC Sounds’ Best Men podcast with Jason Manford and written ‘The Modern Couple’s Guide to Wedding Speeches’, published by Little, Brown.
