Those are the rules. But how does a good Father of the Bride speech look written down? Here’s an example of one, about a daughter who left to study engineering at university, where she met her now-husband.
From the day you were born, you loved to cuddle,
Although most of the time it was to get out of trouble.
Weekends on the beach, running up and down the pier.
Until you left me for uni to become an engineer.
A good engineer gets things up & running,
But a marriage? Well, that requires cunning.
With marriage, there’re no plans to follow along,
There’s just a need to say ‘sorry’, that lasts lifelong.
The basics of marriage, it’s obvious to see,
Isn’t grand designs, but agreeing how hot the house should be.
It’s about getting up early, just to make your loved one tea,
And stacking the dishes; an engineering feat beyond me
Men aren’t easy to mould, but you’ve chosen yours well,
He is kind and strong-willed, can survive Ikea hell.
But as you build your new home, he might break out in a sweat,
When he debates, once again, which lampshade to get.
I wish you a marriage as strong as steel,
An engineering feat, like The Shard or the wheel.
It takes effort to build that sense of bliss,
But as all engineers know, it’s helped with a kiss.
This is, perhaps, quite a specific example. But it goes to show you don’t need to rely on generic advice or old-hat jokes. You can pay tribute to your daughter and all her uniqueness with a wedding poem that will make everything sound as special as it should do. Best of luck!