The basic job of a maid of honour speech is telling the guests how wonderful the bride is and why you’re best friends/close sisters. You obviously want to wish her well with her future marriage and it’s also good if you can make the guests laugh and tell them some stories that they don’t already know!
It’s a given that you’ll compliment the bride on how amazing she looks but you also need to pay tribute to the groom too even if she is way out of his league.
So here’s the plan…
INTRO – Start by introducing yourself and how you know the bride.
Then, cut the chronology and dive straight into something funny. This could be about the wedding prep or a humorous insight into the bride.
Do NOT resort to any ‘wedding gags’ you’ve found on Google. Keep your humour original.
CREATE A THEME – Your speech will mainly be made up of good stories and insights but instead of simply retelling your classic anecdotes, see if you can find a theme that links them all. Creating some sort of narrative puts your speech into the premier league.
A theme could simply play on one of the bride’s most recognisable characteristics – for example, how unlucky the bride usually is, or ditsy, or competitive.
Or maybe it could be based on her occupation. If she’s a teacher, what has she taught you over the years (the good, the bad and the ugly!), or maybe your speech can ask why exactly it took the high-powered recruitment exec so long to head-hunt the man of her dreams!? You get the idea.
Once you have a solid theme, you should find it relatively simple to connect all your favourite stories, for example, “If you thought that was brave of her, you’ll never believe what job Madhu did straight out of uni…!”
SENTIMENT – Of course, as well as all the fun anecdotes, your speech has to have a big old dose of sentiment in it. We suggest this is more powerful toward the latter third of the speech so you’re concluding with the mushy bit.
Make sure you avoid cliches. Instead, talk about what makes the bride truly stand out as an individual and as a friend/sister.
Don’t pretend she’s the perfect princess, love her for the friend she really is!
Prove, don’t tell. Instead of telling everyone that she’s kind and caring, tell them about the time she came round to your flat at midnight with a tub of Ben & Jerry’s just because she thought you were a bit miserable. What a gal.
CONCLUSION – Finally, make sure you pay a heartfelt (but concise) tribute to the groom and give him some advice on keeping the bride happy in their future life together.
A good tip; have two serious pieces of advice and end with a humorous one. That’s guaranteed to make you sound suitably thoughtful without being pompous.